Often like others I have the opportunity to catch up with family and friends. Excited about the progress I have been making in my own personal development I start telling them of my experiences recently.
Some of these interactions got me thinking about naysayers. Yes, we have all experienced them, whilst not every interaction was like this there’s always one! Not heard of the phrase naysayer? Well a naysayer is someone who discourages you for reasons they will sometimes take the time to explain. For example ‘’you can't get up that time of day, you will be tired! You'll never be able to do that in this economy, the money’s not there! you shouldn't do that you won't achieve it, come on be realistic! ‘’.
Usually a difficult, tiring interaction or conservation and what gives someone the right to discourage you? or tell you that pursuing your goals and dreams, is a waste of time? Words like ‘your joking right?’’ Or “That’s impossible!”.
So how then do I and you if you come across them, deal with these experiences? My solution is to try and understand where they were coming from. I thought about each persons comments and asked. Do they have a valid viewpoint, that they have clearly thought out or is it an opinion? Are they successful in their life? Are they are speaking from experience that I value, i.e. Are they living the life I want ? or are they speaking from their fears of change and lack of own personal development.
If it’s the later I decided to just disregard that comment, feedback and input. My goals are precious, and I’m not going to engage with anyone who try's to squash my dreams and motivation. Can you do this too?
If someone is going to consciously or unconsciously sabotage your mindset, squash your goals and limit your potential. It’s beneficial to consider if they are someone to actually share them with. Especially in the early days of establishing new foundations. Have the confidence to say thank you and move on. I, nor you need their approval, need to defend our reasons or feel we cannot be ourselves.
Limit the time you spend with these people and surround yourself with ones who improve your life, through encouragement , inspiration and positivity. If your not in a position that you want to eject the naysayer from your life, then protect your dreams, work diligently towards them and don't bring them to the conversation with these particular people.
One day they might just come back to you and ask how you did it!
Check out this YouTube video I found that explains what I’ve been talking about.
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